So you’ve got an idea of who you’d like to help you SHARE THE LOAD? Apprentice, communication, socials. Yet, you don’t know how to approach the individual about serving the LifeGroup. 

Here are some helpful instructions for approaching someone:

1) PRAY.

James 5:16b “The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”


Prayer is our chief concern as leaders. Through prayer, God will begin to prepare your heart and the individual’s heart for leadership and for your conversation. Without prayer, you are powerless. Through prayer, we have life, vitality, and care share the vision God has for the individual’s life.



Luke 16:10a “One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much…”


Give the individual small opportunities to help the LifeGroup. Ask them to take down prayer requests or lead in prayer one night (privately and before the meeting). Allow them to coordinate a social for one special event. By giving them small responsibilities at first, it allows them to be overwhelmed with a long-term commitment out of the gate.


3) ASK.

Matthew 7:7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”


At some point, you just have to take up the courage and ask them. However, HOW we ask is key. As you approach the individual to ask them, make sure to focus the asking on what you see in them and how you believe God can use the opportunity. Assure them that you will help them gain any skill sets and help train them to fulfill the task. 



 James 1:19 “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;”


Even through all this, the person still has to respond. Be sure to listen to the reason behind whatever answer they give you. If the answer seems to be “no,” be sure to discuss the reasoning further. It may be that the individual is not saying “no” but “not right now.” It may be that the individual gives reasons that need to be graciously challenged. Listen and process with the indidviual.


At the end of everything, even if the answer is “no,” you will feel accomplished because you made effort to get someone else involved in LifeGroup. The only thing you, as a LifeGroup leader, can do is provide the opportunities. It’s up to the individual to take advantage of the opportunity you are providing.